How To Stay Positive In Dating Site:www.reddit.com
EVEN THO it was clear and established first by him that we were sleeping with other people. So we ended up just talking and cuddling which was still nice because I hadn’t seen him in weeks. So how can he 1. Call me sneaky 2. Blame it on me 3. Say he doesn’t want to have sex anymore. Similar situation m8. It sucks when you feel like you're doing everything you can but just keep falling on your face. Nothing we can do but stay positive and keep going. I'm just getting over a particularly bad rejection from a girl I was very into, but she just didn't feel it. Gotta keep moving. There's plenty of fish in the sea.
Guess this should be a disclaimer where I say that I’m a guy, and to be fair I don’t have to go through the troubles of dating as a woman, which I can imagine to be fucking terrible and terrifying. I get it. I hear horror stories and the bullshit girls are put through on dates, the overwhelming amount of assholes and insane standards. It’s frustrating, I get it. There, I have extended my olive branch.
Now allow me to say that the subreddit is pretty toxic. I often scroll through the comments on some posts just to see what’s happening and it just bothers me. I understand your frustration with dating and the amount of guys who just got don’t really understand that the shit they’re asking for in a romantic partner is not even realistic, but to stew in a subreddit full of animosity doesn’t seem productive.
There was a crosspost recently where the meme making fun of the tired cliché of Adam Sandler having a hot wife in his movies, and for some reason someone ranted about he was ugly? And there was another comment where someone argues that men who buy oversized clothes have “mental issues”? I agree the idea of the oafish characters that Sandler plays in his movies having an extremely attractive and fit wife while putting in zero efforts to stay fit himself is pretty absurd. But what does his looks, and the clothing that he wears have to do with anything? If we should respect women’s right to wear whatever they want, maintain their bodies however they want, look a certain way, etc... Why does the way Sandler look even matter?
The whole subreddit feels so childish to me, the way things are talked about there. I think I saw someone refer to someone as a “piss baby”? It’s not even about helping anyone at that point, you’re just being a child.
Why not be a subreddit with actual positive messages? Teach other women to value themselves and only find a partner who will do the same, without the belittling or the anger. Help others notice the red flags on dates that some people might not notice, and teach them to be SAFE. Help them take the necessary steps to be safe while dating! Granted, it should take such an intense amount of effort to date, but a space like that seems more beneficial than whatever’s happening now.
To wrap it up, I understand needing to vent, but sometimes you the stuff thrown around there is just so toxic and childish. it just doesn’t seem like the type of stuff we should using to promote healthy dating strategies.
At the end of the day, it’s a subreddit for women and I understand. But sheesh.